I was in line to use the ATM. There were two people in line before me; a guy who was using the machine, and a lady behind him, who was directly in front of me. I noticed the guy had been using the machine for a bit, but I hardly ever complain, because who knows? He could have a series of withdrawals or other transactions to do, the machine could be annoyingly slow like some of them, or anything.
He was there before me, so I must allow him use his time. I don't like to be nagged when I am using the machine, so I dont nag others too. You hear people say rudely "sister, you wan collect all the money wey dey the machine?" Or "why you no go inside bank na, when you wan collect plenty money?". Sometimes, I play deaf, sometimes I give the commenter the eye and deliberately waste more time checking my balance like 9 times, sometimes I advise the commenter to set my transaction limit or "come and carry me"...
I guess the lady before me was genuinely curious as to why the guy at the machine was taking so much time. But sometimes, even the most innocent of intentions could come across as irritating.
The girl said something about withdrawing in larger sums as against smaller sums. The boy, obviously irritated, burst out sarcastically, saying "ehn ehn, na #10, #10 I dey withdraw, you see say I carry mat come here come sleep".
That was how the altercation started, resulting in insulting each other's families and generations. They both said so much to each other, like they had been enemies before. All those are relatively normal and I wouldn't be writing this post, if not for what I heard next.
The guy threatened to beat up the lady if she didn't keep quiet. I got interested at that point. Trust a typical Lagos girl not to go down without a show. She began to rearrange the scarf on her head, threatening fire and brimstone. He kept clenching his fist and stated that if it wasn't for the police guys around, he would have "busted her lips, broken her teeth and rearranged her"! I was shocked!!!
My mum and I were on our way home and saw two hawkers (a guy and a lady) engaged in a fight. The guy slapped the girl and shoved her to the ground. The girl jumped up and rushed at him like a lion. She grabbed something and continually struck him. It was a sugar cane but she kept hitting his head. In their case, the girl wasn't a docile victim, she didn't back down. She didn't make it easy for him at all. And I loved that...
Again, I wrote sometime ago about a man who viciously attacked a woman at covenant university, over a little argument.
I wonder at the culture of men thinking they can beat up women at home and anywhere even, simply because the other party is a woman. It says a lot about our society and the kind of training these guys had or what they grew up around. I mean, can't a woman and man have an argument without the man threatening to and actually beating her up?
Some say some women are just very provocative. Yea, right! How about giving her back whatever she says to you? How about walking away? If she doesn't touch you, why touch her? If it were a very muscular man, would the said man launch at him?